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“There is something beautiful about all scars of whatever nature. A scar means the hurt is over, the wound is closed and healed, done with.”- Harry Crews Yesterday, I was just listening to Steve Jobs’ authorized biography written by Walter Isaacson. I was listening to the first part of the audio where the author was describing Jobs’ childhood. Jobs was abandoned by his real parents and was adopted by a blue collar couple who can’t bore any children. Though the couple loved Jobs unconditionally, the fact that he was abandoned by his real parents left him an emotional scar that affected the way he lived his life. The author then continued by saying how this scar created a hole in his heart which he tried to fill with various religions and spiritual experiences. This was what led him to become a faithful zen follower. Steve Jobs was not the only person…

We can do anything as long as we put our mind into it. I know this is painfully obvious. This is a statement that reappeared over and over again inside most of the self improvement books I read. As a result, I often dismissed it as another feel-good motivational-phrase that doesn’t help you solve any actual problems. It is only when I read a book called The Road Less Traveled written by M. Scott Peck that I finally understood what this phrase really means. Inside this book, Scott recounted a personal story where his car’s engine broke down and he had not the slightest idea of what to do about it. He realized that the reason he didn’t know what to do was because he never bothered to try fixing a broken engine before. So he decided to try fixing his car alone. After spending some time fondling around with…

“In the age of technology there is constant access to vast amounts of information. The basket overflows; people get overwhelmed; the eye of the storm is not so much what goes on in the world, it is the confusion of how to think, feel, digest, and react to what goes on.” ― Criss Jami, Venus in Arms The advancement of technology has prospered the world and yet, it comes with a steep cost. Technology turned us into the ‘mindless generation: people who go through the motion of life half conscious and half distracted. Go to the mall, restaurants and modern offices, you will see how mindlessness have become a norm that we hardly notice it. I was at Starbucks the other day and what I saw almost startled me. I saw a group of teenagers hanging out together, sitting in a circle and not talking to one another. Instead their eyes were…

“All children are artists. The problem is how to remain an artist once he grows up. “- Pablo Picasso It was Chinese New Year 2014 and I was visiting my grandmother’s house with all the other relatives. We were all busy talking to each other in the living room when suddenly my uncle asked if we’d like to play a game. My uncle is the kind of person who never runs out of ideas to make a gathering more fun. The game he proposed was simple: we were given two bottles that were taped together at its mouth. One bottle was filled with marbles while the other was empty. The objective of the game was to move all the marbles to the other bottle as fast as possible. All my older cousins including myself told my uncle that we’ll pass. We felt that we are too ‘mature’ for this game.…

“And we are put on this earth a little space that we might learn to bear the beams of love”- William Blake One day, on the first cold winter night on earth, a group of porcupines were gathered in a circle. These porcupines were thinking of a way to survive the cold. One porcupine suggested that they should all huddle together and warm each other up. This way, they would make it through the winter and survive. However, another porcupine argued that if they stand too close, their spikes would pierce one another; hurting themselves in the process. Both arguments were valid, stand too far and the cold would kill them; huddle too close and their spikes would hurt each another. The porcupines were having a big dilemma and time was not on their side, for the cold wind started to blow from the north. At the end of the…

“One more rep! That’s what differentiate a winner and a loser- anynomous Looking at the past four years of my life, I realized that I was an avid gym goer, a gym junkie- that guy who you always see in the gym from Monday to Friday. When I first started working out, I used to do all of my workouts alone and boy! Lifting weights can never felt so dull!! It felt like a chore and motivating yourself to the gym was so freaking hard!! Life Buddies and One More Rep! However, it all changed when I started to met people from the community and started working out together. I used to train together with an ex-bodybuilder, an extreme power lifter (I used the word “extreme” because he loves to challenge people to lift heavier) and now I am training with a very motivated newbie. These are the people that constantly…

“The purpose of life is to live it, to taste experience to the utmost, to reach out eagerly and without fear for newer and richer experience.” ― Eleanor Roosevelt A week ago, I tried outdoor cycling for the first time. I could remember how I was holding to the bicycle’s handlebar very tightly as I was rushing up and down the hill. I was probably going down at 80 miles per hour and I could feel the wind gently slapping my worn out face. We were at an area called Graha Candi Golf, a beautiful lush housing complex nestled between two green hills. Cycling on top of those two hills was not an easy task. I was twisting the bicycle gears throughout the entire journey; trying to find the right gear for the occasion. As we started climbing the hill I was busy adjusting my seat, because I was slipping all…

“Life is more fun if you play games.” ― Roald Dahl, My Uncle Oswald My friends and I were in a hotel basement’s car park the other day; the place was damp, quiet and empty. We were standing in circle and there were no other person except for us. Standing in front of me was my friend, who was holding a girl with a blindfold on her eyes. Everyone was hoping and praying that our plans will not be discovered before it succeeded. No this is not an abduction, this is a birthday bash for a dear friend. I waited until everyone settled down and then finally, I opened my mouth and started singing. “Happy birthday to you.. Happy birthday to you..” A smile started to crept on the birthday girl’s face. “Happy birthday.. Happy birthday.. Happy birthday to Clarissa!!!”- and with that, we started shooting her with water guns.…

“There is only one thing that makes a dream impossible to achieve: the fear of failure.” ― Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist A week after my graduation, I felt restless. Right after my graduation, I thought that I would be working as a brand consultant in a multi-national company in Singapore or at least, Australia. I thought that I would be making big cash, doing something that I love to do; and yet, I was not. I was asked by my father to go back home and help his business. His health was failing and he needed a successor right then. Upon the news, I was devastated, I thought to myself, “there goes my dream to run my own marketing company…” The days I spent in my hometown were depressing and very unproductive. I tried to learn more about the company, but without real passion, those efforts seemed fruitless. When I…

“I cannot think of any need in childhood as strong as the need for a father’s protection.” – Sigmund Freud. “Get out..!” Those were the two words that Andy (not his real name) last heard from his father and just like that; he lost his only family, his home. I met Andy at my dad’s factory; the boy wears rugged clothes, his hair is turning brown and his skin looked awfully tanned. What is most striking about him is the empty look in his eyes; a sign that something have gone awfully wrong… I didn’t know the entire story but apparently the boy was a wild child; he quit high school two years ago, he rarely gone home since then and recently, he just lost the family’s motorcycle. His father had enough of his madness and decided to cut him off. His father gave him some money and asked him to…